That's What Love Is...
Nov 3rd, 2024
The Love that I have gotten to experience has been such a beautiful and deep process. Although falling in love may seem uncontrollable. Remaining in love is a Choice.
As I sit on my couch, I am in literal tears… I was listening to a podcast where Dr.Cheyenne Bryant was talking about marriage and I couldn't help but think of my own marriage.
As I listen to the amazing Doc talk about what she views as healthy in marriage, I realize my husband and I exhibit these characteristics, and values. Almost 11 years doing the damn thing. & I can't (but can) believe we are here. I remember looking at my first son and wondering what life would be like when he's older. & now we have 3 beautiful, brilliant children.
I have been feeling all into my husband's love for me & it came with a flood of emotion. We have had to put in work to be here. The beautiful part about it is that the love felt organic. It felt right, I didn't have to question what he felt about me, vise versa. He was what I was missing and we just always chose each other. So when we did/do go through hard times we naturally would flow with each other. That's what love is. Love is choosing to learn, love, and value the other person through all their individual experiences and the shared experiences that you two will go through.
Dr.Bryant also mentioned how alot of fatherless women confuse protection for control because they don't know what protection from a father feels like. The thing about me is that I was that fatherless child that she spoke about in that interview. I never had a father that protected me and show me love, the way a present father would. A man doing it felt foreign. I could really relate to what Dr.Bryant was talking about. Once my husband gave me the space to let my guard down, by showing me I mattered. He took my heart. He showed me a love I have never experienced in life. He has been the most solid, loyal, fun, funny and lets not forget FINE as hell, person to me.
He has allowed me to just BE. Be in my element, and even when I was figuring out what that looked like to be. He never tries to change me. I say all that to not only reflect on our relationship, but to show gratitude for his existence.
I love him for me, and will forever be grateful for this version of love.
